I meant that when one expresses emotion in this certain household that one is found guilty of disrupting the order of things and creating conflict in a place that does not tolerate conflict. The funny part about it is that it all circles back to the same point: emotion was expressed (and we are supposed to assume that this is bad by definition, which is funny in a sad way.)

Of course one can quickly gather in situations like these that being opposed to conflict means to be opposed to visible conflict, which leaves less visible (but just as real) conflict and power dynamics left in tact.

Thanks for reading. Yes, we are hoping to talk about the intersections of different forms of oppression.

I was wondering if this:

You know, i also recently lived in a patriarchal, completely white dominated cooperative in which showing emotion while attempting to make a point was perceived as “showing emotion” and one was quickly found guilty of “showing emotion while attempting to make a point.”

means you agree with me, or that you are refuting my point?

You know, i also recently lived in a patriarchal, completely white dominated cooperative in which showing emotion while attempting to make a point was perceived as “showing emotion” and one was quickly found guilty of “showing emotion while attempting to make a point.”

I am excited about the “room for other stuff.” Perhaps this can become a useful forum for talking about the intersections of different forms of oppression.

Anyways, i am off on my joyful way with a little more knowledge and consciousness thanks to you.
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